Life Long Love: Meet the Harveys

Lukeman and Carolina Harvey 24 years ago

Meet Lukeman and Carolina Harvey, our featured couple this month. They are committed to each other, and I’ll bet you can learn something from their decade’s long relationship. Read on to find out!

We love so many things about Lukeman & Carolina’s story.

We appreciate their transparency and openness about the ways that they had to create a healthy relationship of their own which is separate from the families that they grew up in.

Significant to us is their commitment to serve one another and laugh together! These things go hand in hand, though it isn’t often the way folks think about it.

What a cool bond!  We are inspired by their mutual cherishing of the gift of a spouse.  

How many years have you been married and how old were you when you got married?

24 years! Lukeman was 21 and Carolina was 24.

Where & how did the two of you meet?

We met at work, and it started with a lunch date.

What first attracted you to one another?

Lukeman - she is attractive.

Carolina - his smile

We all have ideas about how marriage is supposed to be when we say our wedding vows.  What was one of the first challenges you encountered that challenged your ideas of what marriage was supposed to be?

One of the first challenges we faced was extended family making attempts to get into the middle of our marriage. Sometimes causing a divide between Lukeman and I. As our faith grew as individuals and a couple we understood that we were our new family and we needed to protect it. The only thing in the middle of our marriage was God.

What has helped you stay together?  What's your secret?

Because we made a commitment no matter the circumstances. We have had sickness, we have had health, we have had hardships and we always desired to support one another through it all. Humor is definitely our secret. We laugh a good amount. 

Do you pray together?  Or have other faith activities?

Yes, we pray together. We pray for our family, especially our children.

Do you date?  How do you play together?  How has that changed during your years together?

Yes, we date. We have gone on some trips together in the last year and enjoy our time together, we really like the one on one time. When our kids were little we would put them to bed early, 6pm, and we would eat dinner each night after they went to bed so we could enjoy some adult and couple time. 

What do you call your in-laws?

Lukeman's parents - Grandma and Grandpa 

Carolina's parents - Adi and Papa

How do you KNOW your spouse loves you?  How do you let your spouse know you love them?

Lukeman - I know she loves me because she puts me first and I love her by working hard to provide for my family.

Carolina - I know he loves me because of his commitment to serve myself and our family. I love him by telling him how important he is to us and showing him affection.

Share a nugget of wisdom you wish you could give to your younger selves.

Carolina - Don't major on the small stuff.

Lukeman - Listen to her more and pay attention.

What do you do on a regular basis for your marriage?

We are purposeful in spending time together. Giving ourselves a chance to talk and laugh together. 

Carolina and Lukeman still having a great time together!